Celebration of Life
I arrived at the church rather early and the first person I saw was Mr. Nichols. And he gave me the biggest, longest hug and as you can probably imagine, I cried. Couldn't help myself. I had planned to be strong and not cry. Who was I kidding?
And then, someone approached us and so he turned and introduced me and said the kindest, most meaningful thing he could have said. "This is Alysa. She's one of Alice's dearest friends from college. And she's like a daughter to us." Ya, I lost it again. That just made me feel so, so good. So loved.
The whole service, start to finish, was beautiful; a taste of heaven. And perfectly Mrs. Nichols. The way she would have wanted it. While it was about her, the reality is, it really wasn't about her at all. It was about her Jesus. Just the way she would have wanted it. I can't think of a more humble, beautiful, teeny tiny, gentle, loving and kind-spirited person. And all those soft qualities were tucked inside this amazingly strong lady. A woman of prayer. A woman that lived in anticipation of the day she would meet her Jesus. And June 16th, she did just that. She walked into the loving arms of her sweet Savior, the one that paid the price for her sins so that she could live forever with Him. The reason she lived her life.
I couldn't help but glance over at Mr. Nichols throughout the service. I'm not sure why except I just couldn't help thinking, "What is he thinking right now?" and "How does someone lose their best friend 1 day short of 44 years of marriage?" It seems almost impossible to handle. And then I would be thrown back into the reality of his faith, and mine, too, which says that we don't grieve as the world grieves, without hope. We have that Hope.
The very last picture in the video was just perfect. It was of Mr. and Mrs. Nichols, walking through a garden, holding hands, mid-stride, smiling and laughing. Together. And I couldn't help but think that some day, they will be reunited and will walk hand-in-hand, smiling and laughing, through a garden, mid-stride once again. Together for all eternity. A beautiful picture of the Hope we have for those of us that know Jesus as our loving Redeemer.
Hands down, the highlight of the service for me was the final song - In Christ Alone. Alice had asked some of us to get up and sing, 'choir style' and I have to say, it was an amazing, powerful experience. I had prayed like crazy leading up to the day, that I wouldn't just cry through the whole thing, because a) music moves me, especially in a memorial service and b) this is one of my favorite songs {we sang it at Jackson's dedication service} and c) let's just be honest, I tend to be a cry baby.
I did choke up once or twice, looking down at Alice's dad and also glancing beside me to Alice, but honestly, I found myself lost in worshipping Jesus and imagining the angels just singing alongside us. It has to be one of the highlights of my life. It really does. I swear, everyone was singing at the tippy top of their lungs and the harmony was beautiful. People were full on smiling. It just was the perfect way to end the service. Full of joy. And Hope. And Peace.
And with that I will transition into a completely non-spiritual, non-related event. A random memory as I'm sitting here writing this post.
So when Alice arrived at the church, she told how she had basically threatened the girls within an inch of their lives that they needed to leave their pony tails IN. Don't touch the ribbon. Don't take out the pony tails. When we leave after the luncheon you can then remove the pony tails. Then and ONLY then. You get the idea. Leave the pony tails and ribbon IN your hair.
And I have to say, they looked simply darling on the way into the service. Walking hand-in-hand with their Packa between them. Pony tails perfectly aligned. Ribbon tied just so.